Saturday is Valentine's day. Normally no big deal, i just get irritated that John forgets to even get me a little card until the last minute, but hey, he's a guy right.
But this year, it's the first year without my dad. It would have been his and mom's 34th anniversary. I know it's going to be terribly hard on my mom. They got married on Valentine's day, i can't honestly tell you that they had any real "reason" for doing so, but i always have thought it was sweet. Mom's wedding ring is beautiful, not at all traditional, it has cut out hearts all around the band, very unique.
Also 8 years ago when i was just turning 24 (my birthday is on the 19th) John proposed and gave me a beautiful engagement ring. The diamond is held up on each side by a heart w/ a small diamond inside. I just love my ring, and the thing that makes it hard this year is I'm remembering the night he proposed and how thrilled my dad was. He just loved John so much, took him right under his wing and treated him like his own son. He was so happy for me, for John and the whole family that night. I just remember the joy in his face and his voice. Oh dad, how i miss you.
Anyway back to topic. I've been trying to come up with something I could do to make the day a bit easier for my mom. Then i realized nothing is going to make it easy, but that I certainly can't let her sit around and be lonely and sad. John and I decided to take her and Cheyanne out to a really nice dinner Saturday night. I'm also going to order her a single yellow rose (her favorite) I think, i havn't decided for sure, i'm worried that will make her more sad. What do you think??
2 comments:
I think your idea is a good one. About the rose though, did your dad get them for her? Not sure how painful of a reminder that would be. Maybe white, even though yellow are her fav... just in honor of him? You are a wonderful daughter (and sil) to take such good care of your mom. Hope work is going ok...
Ellen
I've been thinking about your mom a lot this week. I was thinking of trying to do something for her myself...I thought of a card of course, flowers, and you know, I'm still not sure...I think she would be happy that anyone is thinking of her, and loving her. She's such a sweet person, Sarah. I wish there was more we could do, but I guess the grief process is just something long and drawn out, isn't it? Loosing someone you love so much just sucks.
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